Regulate Your Anger And Be A Winner In Life
Shastras are unequivocal in stating that
“Anger is the greatest enemy to self.” Anger makes you excited and distracted, thereby clouding your intelligence and your ability to tackle things appropriately. Just as there two types of stress – “Eu stress” that is considered positive and acts as a motivator and “distress” that is a potential spoil-sport for good performance, there are two types of anger. Anger stemming from righteous causes and rightly channeled can actually fire up your progress in life. It can help you tackle tough challenges and help you to face dangerous situations. However, constant anger without any perceivable causes (irritability and a general short-fuse) can be a great obstacle for your progress and also cause suffering to all those who are fated to move around you. Let us see what astrology has to say about this and also about how powerful controlled-aggression and assertiveness can be….
The position and planetary associations of the Red Planet – Mars are indicative of a person’s temper – whether he is short-tempered or not. Mars’ position also indicates the targets of a person’s anger….
1) If Mars is in the 2nd house, the person might use harsh words, and speak in such a way that others will literally dread whenever the person opens his mouth. The person may be basically good, and may even say certain things for the welfare of others, but the tone of his speech and his harsh usage of words will alienate others from him/ her.
2) If Mars is in the 4th house, it indicates a basically harsh character who tends to think that speaking tough is “being tough.” These persons are likely to be fortunate in acquisition of assets if other planetary combinations also favour that (like conjunction or aspect of Jupiter), but their short-tempered nature will be a curse that follows them giving them a bad name all their life unless they take conscious efforts to control that.
3) Mars and Saturn conjunct in any house of the horoscope can give rise to a violent temper and aggressive tendencies. In some cases, such individuals are initially victims of other’s short-tempered behaviour which they may take out on others in later life! This signature combination is often found in the horoscopes of many habitual abusers with a history of domestic violence or even worse!
4) Mars – Saturn combination in the 4th house or 8th house can make a person prone to serious accidents also.
5) Combination of Sun and Mars in the 5th house can make a person short-tempered. They are likely to misunderstand people’s intentions and get angry. However, if the person’s ascendant is Aries or Scorpio, the anger will be of “quick to anger but still quicker to forgive”. These persons can be easily cooled down by simple and logical explanations.
6) Ascendant or Moon in Scorpio can make a person highly emotional and short-tempered. Their anger stems from a basic irritability with their life circumstances.
7) Association of Mars to the ascendant or ascendant lord (i.e. if Mars is placed in the ascendant, or if it aspects it, or if it is in conjunction or aspect to the ascendant lord) can make a person short-tempered.
Apart from the aspects of Mars, there are other indications of fiery temperament – like if ascendant falls in a Fiery sign (Aries, Leo, Sagittarius); affliction of 3rd house lord (3rd house lord indicates courage and if the 3rd house lord is in conjunction with malefic planets, the person will be very courageous, but at the same time, known for rough and ready methods regarding everything in life!); if ascendant lord is placed in the 6th house (the person becomes his own enemy due to short-tempered behaviour).
Remedies for short-tempered behaviour arising out of the combinations described above:
1) If the reason for short-tempered behaviour is identified as bad placement of Mars, then remedies should be done to pacify Mars. Prayers to Lord Lakshmi Narasimha, Lord Hanumaan, Lord Kaartikeya, and Vatuka Bhairava can help the person to channelize unwanted aggression into forceful but constructive actions (Prayers to any one of these Deities as per one’s preference will suffice). Once these remedies work, the person will start manifesting channelized aggression that will actually fuel his/ her growth in life. They will become “terror to enemies, and saintly to friends/ relatives” as the saying goes…
2) If parents identify such patterns in the child’s horoscope, they should recite the following chaupaayii from Hanumaan Chaaliisaa:
“Mahaa Veer Vikram Bhajrangii
Kumathi Nivaar sumathi ke Sanghii”
12 times daily. Holy ash, sandalwood paste, or sindhoor/kumkum should be kept in the right hand ring finger during the recital and at the end of the recital, these should be applied between the eye-brows of the child to cool down the temper and to enable the child to develop “assertiveness” instead of “aggression”.
3) Fasting on Tuesdays and prayers to Mother Goddess (In her forms of Durga , Chandii, or Soolini) will help in developing courage instead of short-temperedness. There could be aggressive mental images that arise during such meditations; the native should cultivate a consciously passive attitude towards such imagery – letting them pass as if he is only a witness to them and as if he is not thinking about them! Gradually the aggressive imageries will start subsiding with passing periods if the fasts and meditation are done regularly.
4) Those with Mars in the 3rd house or 9th house should undertake hard physical exercises to get the aggression out of their system. The “high” that one gets after hard physical exercises will act as a “mood elevator” to these persons and make them behave in calm and gentle manner with everyone.
5) Those with Mars in the 2nd house should eat some sweet item at the end of every meal, and take a conscious affirmation that they will try to speak sweetly with everyone.
The power of controlled aggression in management situations
Though unbridled anger is undesirable, unnecessary suppression of anger or failure to express dissatisfaction under genuine circumstances is also not recommended. You should not let anger cloud your intelligence, you should not anger spoil your relationship, you should not let anger poison your circumstances; but, if situations demand, there is nothing wrong in “feigning” anger without losing your internal cool.
Though many people feel that “shouting” at the top of one’s voice is the height of aggression, the reality is that almost everyone is in awe of the silent person who expresses genuine dissatisfaction in soft tones but in uncertain terms, and gives a subtle hint that things may not be as smooth the next time around. One who shouts loses the psychological advantage of “element of suspense” – others perceive that “he is going to shout…what else?” But when you are silent and logical, and have expressed your dissatisfaction, others do not know what else you are going to do, and hence will feel it is better not to cross your line and to follow your instructions. What is more….as you have not challenged their egos by shouting, they have no psychological hang-ups regarding obeying your instructions. Such regulated expression of dissatisfaction – where you have not lost your cool but others perceive your genuine dissatisfaction, and they know what you expect of them in the future, will go a long way in making you a successful person. What is more….people will perceive you as being a gentle person who is all the same efficient!
Article by Pandit R Dakshinamoorthi
